Gender Swaying

Re: Has anyone else seen this article?

Chasing Dreams — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:51:13 GMT

Rainne:

Wow.

I googled her, check it out: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Shalit

She seemed nice enough...

Wow, that was really interesting. Not at all surprising that the article was pulled off Elle if she has this sort of history.

Re: Has anyone else seen this article?

Rainne — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:29:36 GMT

luv4boys:

the article was pulled from the website today by Elle.

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AnneUCSB — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:19:55 GMT

luv4boys:
the article was pulled from the website today by Elle.

I am SOOOO glad to hear this!

Re: Has anyone else seen this article?

luv4boys — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:13:28 GMT

the article was pulled from the website today by Elle.

Re: Has anyone else seen this article?

Rainne — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:24:18 GMT

alligus:
I thought the article was pathetic and the 'writer' should be ashamed of herself. Where were all the words of the women who are sad while pregnant, but who come back after the birth of their child telling us how much they love him or her, and how they can't believe they ever thought they might not? Where were all the declarations of mothers saying their GD baby is, to use my favorite phrase, everything they never knew they always wanted? Where were the descriptions of all the supportive posts from others? Where was the disclaimer that almost nobody here wants one gender INSTEAD of another, they want one gender IN ADDITION to the other? Where was the announcement that for every one person who contemplates aborting their baby, there are several hundred who don't??? But I suppose if THOSE things had been printed, it wouldn't be much of a story, would it, because I guarantee you, the majority of women in this country would like to raise both genders. Apparently, it's better to make us come across as bitter, evil, mentally impaired women who hate our children because of what does or doesn't dangle between their legs. Makes. Me. Sick. Although on the bright side, I'll save a little money by not ever buying another copy of Elle magazine.

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K.D.G. — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:00:44 GMT

i have learned 2 lessons-be more cautious and don't trust what you read.

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K.D.G. — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:59:44 GMT

she twisted everything i said. she made some things up 100%. that woman is evil.

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Gus... — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:42:03 GMT

I thought the article was pathetic and the 'writer' should be ashamed of herself. Where were all the words of the women who are sad while pregnant, but who come back after the birth of their child telling us how much they love him or her, and how they can't believe they ever thought they might not? Where were all the declarations of mothers saying their GD baby is, to use my favorite phrase, everything they never knew they always wanted? Where were the descriptions of all the supportive posts from others? Where was the disclaimer that almost nobody here wants one gender INSTEAD of another, they want one gender IN ADDITION to the other? Where was the announcement that for every one person who contemplates aborting their baby, there are several hundred who don't??? But I suppose if THOSE things had been printed, it wouldn't be much of a story, would it, because I guarantee you, the majority of women in this country would like to raise both genders. Apparently, it's better to make us come across as bitter, evil, mentally impaired women who hate our children because of what does or doesn't dangle between their legs. Makes. Me. Sick. Although on the bright side, I'll save a little money by not ever buying another copy of Elle magazine.

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miraclebeliever — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:58:00 GMT

Interesting read... they really took the heart out of the matter though, didn't they? They turned those emotions into something mechancial- something that should be explained. But we all know our emotions are wild and crazy and free and unexplainable.

I wanted a girl to begin with and when I first found out it was a boy I thought, "gasp... Oh? Okay..." And I now love my little boy so much I considered not having another! I wondered if I could ever love another child as much as I loved him.

Now I'm really pushing my chances to get a girl with swaying- knowing this will probably be our 2nd and last. I feel like I will be okay to have a boy again though. It'd be easyier- we already have all the boy clothes and toys, I kinda now what to expect with those diaper changes... but I wonder how many other mothers felt this way and upon finding out their sway failed... those wild emotions took over?

Did anyone start off feeling like they would be okay regardless of the sex -but after getting an opposite got GD?

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Turtles — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:26:17 GMT

Grl4Bekah:
I have realized my gender dreams, without some of the difficulty many women have had. I know the longing... but not the torture. I still long... but I don't feel tortured. Many do. I feel so sad that we can not all just realize our gender dreamns. :o(

So, to be honest, I have a hard time relating with some. I don't understand wanting to abort. I am not against women that feel that way... but I do not understand.

That all being said, I was really annoyed by the article. I felt like it was intended to make all women with GD sound crazy and irrational. I do not feel the author was trying to sound indifferent. I found it offensive.

If I felt that way... how must someone truly hurting feel?? I thought it did all of us a disservice. It made us sound crazy and selfish... and depending on how you take it... maybe just cruel.

Very sad, to me. :o(

That's pretty much how I took the article and how I feel about it too...the comments left were by women who obviously just don't underestand at all...it's not just about being able to have healthy kids (which I think we are all grateful for)

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SOS sis — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:20:07 GMT

i am completely stunned!! i don't even know what to say. i'm so sorry for all of those she wrote of w/o permission-to invade one's thoughts & lives like that...utterly apprehensible!!

Re: Has anyone else seen this article?

luv4boys — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:04:38 GMT

http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/t/102663.aspx?PageIndex=1 Here is the original link where she searched for her victims(here is her personal email) by the way I never wrote to her, I am truly sorry that this article may hurt some.

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Southernbelle — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:05:46 GMT

This article was pathetic! I've not suffered from GD and I was offended by how she portrayed it.

The only thing that I can hope is that women reading the article with GD will see beyond the authors misleading conclusions, come to IG and seek help from those that have been through it. I think that what she underestimates is the number of women (and men) who feel GD and never speak of it. Hopefully it will still reach those who need it the most.

Hugs to every one of our friends who were mentioned and slandered as a result of the article.

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Fearymay — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 22:53:49 GMT

it shoud be interesting to see the type of people who will be coming on in the next little while after reading this article. fun! ( enter sarcasm)

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Grease Monkey — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 22:36:07 GMT

OMG I am completely and utterly horrified by this article. This is NOT MY IG that I know and love and out of respect to our members she should have left screen names and real life names out. I am sorry to see this article portaying IG the way it is