I posted this in the GD section, too, but thought I would post over here:   

So, I waited a few weeks to write this to make sure the GD wasn't lurky.  My son is now 5 weeks and I am so happy.  Granted he is a baby and you don't really have gender differences in small babies but I have a peace about it.  I was crying up until 2 weeks before he was born, still upset from GD.  He came and I just knew that it's how it was supposed to be.  A few things helped me. 

One of which I certainly hope doesn't happen to anyone else but my son was born with a birth defect.  We know now it is fairly minor as far as birth defects go and will only need a couple surgeries to resolve.  But right after he was born I was sitting in the hospital crying and realized that I loved him and was so sad that I had ever wished he hadn't come to be.  I knew that because I was so upset by his defect I must have strong feelings towards him. 

Seeing my daughter with him has also helped a lot. I realized that she doesn't care at all that she didn't get a sister and is caring and nuturing towards him. 

A small aside:  Yes, I do already have a DD.  I should definitely point out that I know I can't begin to understand the GD some of you are suffering who have none of your dream gender and may never get the chance to. 

I do want to say that I don't want anyone to read this who has just had their son/daughter and isn't immediately bonded to them to feel like they have no hope.  It may take time.  It may take professional help.  It may happen gradually or in spurts. I am SURE I will go through bouts of wanting another DD.  Adoption is still on the table for us but it will be several years before we can even think about that (especially with recent economic issues).  But, I can honestly say that if another DD didn't happen for us I would be okay.  Maybe a tiny bit sad every once in a while but overall very happy. 

I wish everyone the best!  If you don't have your dream gender and have the patience, means and fight in you to try again-DO!  If you cannot have any more children for whatever reason try to find some joy.  I know a lot of us are sad we wasted time on GD that could have been put to more productive concerns. DD's are so wonderful but now I know that DSs are, too! 

 P.s.  I got two e-mails from friends who were "finding out" this week.  They are both having their second girl.  I still got the slight feeling in the pit of my stomach but was able to say to myself "That's wonderful!  They are so lucky but I am, too." They both wanted second girls so I am completely happy for them.  And dreaming of the day I get my second girl, too.  Hee hee.