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MicroSort profile: the Dawe family of Memphis, TN

Dawe Family

After three daughters in a row, Jon and Kacie Dawe hoped that MicroSort could increase their chances of having a boy.

Their first MicroSort attempt, however, proved to be unsuccessful. Jon flew to Fairfax, Virginia, to provide a sperm sample, which was sorted using the MicroSort procedure to increase the percentage of Y-sperm. The sample was frozen, then shipped home where it was used to artificially inseminate Kacie, who did not become pregnant.

"... it would be nice to have a boy. If it ends up being a girl, it is a girl," Kacie said in July 2004 before the couple tried MicroSort for the second time. "I don't think I would have done anything that required me to choose between embryos. When you go through all this you realize how precious life is."

For their second attempt, the couple travelled to MicroSort for IVF, combining their quest for a son with a family vacation in Washington, DC. Three embryos were implanted, and Kacie and Jon surely rejoiced to learn that she was pregnant. At 16 weeks pregnancy, an ultrasound showed that Kacie was carrying twins, a boy and a girl.

Kacie recalled thinking as the ultrasound got under way, "Please, please, please let there be a boy in there."

Joseph Maxwell and Sophie Rose were born on April 27, weighing 7 pounds, 10 ounces and 6 pounds, 7 ounces.

Their family of 7 children now includes Hannah, 10, and Grant, 9, from Kacie's previous marriage; Gabrielle, 5, and twin girls, Jacqueline and Jordan, 3; and now little twins Max and Sophia.

This is the first case of boy/girl MicroSort twins I've come across, besides my own. (Like Kacie, I also didn't find out I was having twins until well into pregnancy -- 20 weeks, in fact!) Perhaps they wonder, like me, whether having boy/girl twins was just a statistical chance, or whether there was such a strong predisposition to having one gender, overwhelming odds were needed to overcome it to have just one baby of the opposite gender. We'll never know. ;-)

Happy 4-month-birthday to twins Sophia and Max, and best wishes to all of the Dawe family!

Published Aug 23 2005, 08:59 AM by Maureen
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In 1999, my two sons were 4 and 2 years old, and we were ready to have another baby. I hoped to have a daughter, and I turned to the Internet to search for ways of increasing the odds of conceiving a girl. I discovered the iVillage Gender Determination Board. On the board, I found information about at-home and high-tech sex selection methods, but more importantly, I discovered I wasn't alone. I was one among a legion of mothers who longed desperately for a daughter, keeping it a secret so others wouldn't think, wrongly, that we loved our sons less, and feeling guilty becuse we're not supposed to care if a baby's a boy or a girl, "as long as it's healthy". There were, of course, also mothers hoping just as much to add a son to their all-girl family.

After a lot of research and soul-searching, my husband I decided to try MicroSort. In the fall of 2000, I became pregnant on our first MicroSort attempt, by IUI. At 20 weeks of pregnancy, we discovered we were having twins, a boy and a girl! We were thrilled to have a daughter at last, and a new son to cherish too.

During my journey to conceive a daughter, I was so grateful for the support and information volunteered by others on the boards; mothers who didn't even know me, but were willing to help me, hope for me, and cry along with me, when there was no one I could turn to "in real life". I know that without being able to talk personally with women who had tried MicroSort, I would have never gone through with this daunting, complex procedure; and that we would have never had a daughter as part of our family.

Now that my journey's finished, this Web site is just my way of giving some of that help back, to you.